Finding the Right Guy or Right Girl

"Sigmund Freud, The Austrian founder of psychoanalysis, said that unless the personality has love, it sickens and dies. Love includes understanding, goodwill, and respect for the divinity in the other person. The more love and good will you emanate and exude, the more comes back to you."  -- 'Joseph Murphy' in his book " The Power of your Subconscious Mind".
I have read some of such books which claims that there is a subconscious mind who defines our present and future events. Our subconscious mind is the source of infinite energy and resources. Whatever you ask it to do, it is done.
Everyone has this source of infinite intelligence and power, and everybody is using it 24 hours a day. Whatever is happening in our life, is attracted by ourself. There is no other external energy which has made you, what you are today. If you are in a lovely relationship, it is because you have asked for it. Your subconscious acted on your desire to have a lovely relationship and that is the reason that you are in this lovely relationship.

Subconscious is the only God, which is present in this world, there is no other God, other than your own sub-conscious mind. What I am trying to say here is that, one himself or herself is responsible for the kind of relationships they have in their personal life. If its perfect, then congratulations! If not, then I have a good news for you, you can have a perfect relationship also.

The source is within you, all you need is the skill to use this source, the vast source of your subconscious mind. Subconscious mind can be impressed with the continuous determined efforts, everyday. It has no limits, so you have to keep doing the work everyday, because subconscious never sleeps, so even when your conscious has slept, it still keeps an eye on your body and actions.

The main thing is to know those skills, with which you can impress your subconscious mind for your own good. Well, let me teach you something from my own understanding of the subconscious mind, suppose you are someone, who is constantly in and out of love.
The reason may be anything, try to find that reason, if possible, if not, no problem. You can start from with whatever understanding you have.

You know that your relationships don't stay for long, you should start praying to your subconscious mind to give you a long lasting relationship. A relationship which you want to last forever, figure out, what characteristics you want to have in your partner and then impress those qualities into yourself. Suppose, you want a partner who is lovely, caring, emotionally matured, determined,healthy and wealthy.
You should start saying this to yourself, " I am a lovely, caring, emotionally matured, determined, healthy and wealthy. Therefore I attract the same kind of partner in my life, whom I would love to live my whole life with.".

You can write or speak verbally or mentally this to yourself, each day, after waking up, and before going to bed. Once you consciously impress your subconscious mind, it will do wonder for you. Soon, you will see a person with the above mentioned qualities into your life.

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An Idea from Girl Friend

"Jaan, Its been long time since I wrote anything here, I want to write a new post on my dating blog, what should I write about?" posted into our Facebook chat box, asking for an advise from my girl friend.
I knew she doesn't read much literature and neither does she write a blog, but still I wanted some advise from her.
"write something about us", she replied back. "Write about some funny moment between us.". Now I had to think some funny moment.

An idea from my girl friend

"Okay, let me think.", I replied back, expecting a further detailed reply from her, because I have heard that girls are unstoppable in such replies.

"I love you.", next came the reply. Okay, instantly came this idea of writing about this whole conversation taking place between us. I felt something good about this conversation, so I wanted to share it in my blog.

After thinking all this, I again poked her with my next line, " Came any idea into your mind?".
"No, you were thinking about something, not me.". I think she wanted something in surprise from me, so didn't want to contribute much of her own into the whole post.
"You think something too.". I gave a last try.
"Write about some unforgettable moment between us, which you think of as most special between us.". I was thinking, that this moment was going to be something very special, because yet I have not told her about the whole idea of this post.
"You tell me about the moment which you think was most special for us.". Now that was another last try from me and I expected of her getting a little irritated.
"I don't remember any one now.". Okay, she is a little irritated now.

"Okay", I replied back. Now I waited for her for few moments to come back into a creative mode.
" You thought something?", she retorted back after about 3-3 minutes.
"Nothing.",
"Why?",
"I don't know.",
"Hawww...  write about a fight between us.". Now, she was in a sweet fight mode.
"Write about that fight between us, which took place inside that Pizza hut.", I think she love those fights, when I get jealous, because this gives her more attention. I was jealous about some of boys in her friend list in Facebook, and so I was giving her advice on how to avoid those boys.
"Do you love such fights?", I didn't really want to write about that in details.
"No.. not totally.".. I think this was a line for taking back the sweet revenge, which she avoided to take that day, while I was advising her and irritating her a little.

"What should I write about that Pizza fight?".
" I gave you plot, you are writer, so write further.", after this reply from her I got busy in writing this whole post, so while I was at half of this post, came the next poke, this time from her side.

"Lost?".. Okay, I was lost into this post, .."No, I am writing the post now.", I replied back. I expected some curiosity from her, but she chose not to disturb me because she sensed me been busy, but I knew of her being curious.

" I am writing about this whole chat which just happened in between us.".. this time I expected her to become a little surprised, but not like others.. " I would love to read that.", came the waited reply.
"Finish it fast, and take your dinner.", I felt good about this line from her, because even if she don''t read my post, she showed a sincere care for my dinner, for which I am getting really late.
Its 10:00 PM now, so I better hit the publish button.

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What you do when you are heart broken in Love?

Hi, how you doing?
Have you observed yourself, what happens when you are hurt broken?
You and your partner are having some conflicts about something, you told them to do something but they do something else. They could have done easily what you told them to do, you feel hurt broken.
You feel unloved and unsatisfied, what to do? You can feel the cloud of the feelings building inside, you don't feel right.
The reason for this cloud can be something else too, a feeling of jealousy can also make you feel worse. Suppose you and your partner are living at different places, kind of scenario when you are not married yet.
You come online in the Facebook or Whats App, you see your partner online too. Now while you are talking to them, you sensed that their attention is somewhere else.
What is she/he doing? Is he/she chatting with someone else? Or is he/she busy in browsing the pics of a bitch online.
You start to reply in the similar manner, and a untold war start between you. You start ignoring each other, but deep down inside you know you are heart broken.

Now there can be two cases, either your partner was really doing what you thought was happening or was not. If the first case is there, I think in short time period you will come to know about it.
The best way is to remain neutral and see if this is happening in real. Everybody want fidelity in love relation, boy or girl, equally.

Heart Broken :( :(

The reason for infidelity are not to be understood, and doesn't matter, if somebody is not loyal to you now, don't expect them to be loyal in the future. Expectations reduces joy, so don't expect the loyalty in the future too. If you can go in such a way, go on, otherwise there is something which hurts a lot but we have to do.
That is called break up, I don't know how to do it, maybe simply you switch to the next one. Pushing NEXT button in your mind is difficult one, but you have to do it. This is the time when you need to listen to a number of sad songs, songs which can express your feelings to the core of your heart.

Should it be a formal break up or simply just walking away, without a single bye? I think it doesn't matter, there will be a mutual feeling of the distrust and heart break, and it doesn't matter how you do it.
Both of you will get the message, it hurts!!! Badly.
If you want to cry, cry yourself, it helps.
Take it a lesson for yourself, but never stop loving. Love with more intensity next time, so that your next partner need not to do the same thing. I think focussing on the love itself is more important, rather than the hurt breaks. Remember the Law of Attraction?
You get what you really want or desire in your life. It works silently, behind your back. Law of Attraction should be applied in a positive way, by focussing on what you want, rather than what you don't want.

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Love and Astrology

Hi,
I am a learner of Vedic Astrology and today I want to share with you the things which I observed about the link of the Astrology with the Love or Romantic relationships.
In Astrology, the house of romance is 5th from the ascendant. The 9th house is the house of the luck and philosophies etcetera but the 1st house is 5th from 9th.

When we say 5th house is the house of romance, it shows the kind of people you will have romantic relations with. Suppose, you are an Aries ascendant then, your romantic partners are going to be the one who are having the Leo ascendant.

Reason is that for an Aries ascendant 5th house is occupied by the Leo, so the people having the Leo ascendants would love to have romantic relationship with.
Same way people having the Sagittarius ascendants are the one with whom you would love to have the romantic relationships.

This way either a Sagittarius or a Leo ascendant peoples are the ones who are very much likely to be having romantic relationships with each other.

What matters more is your Moon and Sun signs. In Vedic astrology people give more preference to the Guna milans which are mostly based on the Moon signs. For example a person with Gemini Moon sign is more likely to have a love relationship with Libra and Aquarius which are at 5th and 9th respectively from the Gemini.
Same goes with the Sun sign, if you are a Leo, a person with the Sagittarius and Aries signs are more likely to suit you.

Now when all of these three match, I think the couple is going to have a blast all the time. As they say in Vedic astrology, your ascendant represents your physic, personality, what you look to the outside world.
Your moon sign represents your Mind, your emotional response and thinking. Sun represents the soul and your Ego.
All these three together make a large part your life, but Astrologers suggests that to have a complete horoscope match, one should see all the planets in the birth charts.

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Love in Facebook - Is this possible?

Hi there,
How you doing? Do you have your account in Facebook?

Then surely, you know that there are whole lot of people in Facebook who look for the relationships. Even a well settled person checks his Facebook every while for staying in touch with latest updates from his friends.
There are a numbers of stories of people getting their love of life in Facebook. Recently Ajay and Priya, who were Facebook friends for last 1 year, secretly created crush for each other and this kept growing with each status message and photo that they see on each other's timeline.

Both of them secretly knew the tension that was building in between, but how to get into a single bubble of tension? Along with that tension a number of other things matters and if they are in favor, you know this crush turns into a fruitful relationship.
Ajay and Priya has started to meet each other whenever they get the opportunity from their work, and if God keeps his blessings, they soon may get married.

They still talk on the Facebook and share the deep feelings in that little chat box which has a numbers of features/tools representing one's emotions, making it more easier to share their feelings.
This is a real story with few imaginations, and happens every here and there of your place. May be you are one of those lucky people, if so, please share your story with me.

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Does Mantra(Om Kleem Kamdevay namah) works with dating?

Hi, 

Hi,
I just came across a youtube video which is made by Kapiel Raaj, a vedic astrologer and much more. He is basically from India but currently lives in US.

I have subscribed to his channel of astrology to learn the vedic astrology and that is why that I can call myself at least a rookie in astrology. If you want to check out astrology blog please visit here through this link.

Now let's come back to our video so, this video teaches you a Mantra which will help you to bring the right person as a love partner in your life. This Mantra is basically a prayer to the lord of 'Kama'(love making) in Hindu mythology. Kamadev is the Hindu God who can fill a person with the desire of sex and lust.

So, if you pray to this God he will make you attractive enough to attract the love of your life. According to Kapiel Raaj, you will become a magnet for opposite sex. It sounds funny but just wanted to share with you. I take it to a somewhat serious level because Hindu mythology is very deep and I think there is a lot to search in it. 

Well, sooo, here is the Mantra "Om Kleem Kamdevay Namah". Chant this mantra where ever you feel comfortable. 

This one line simply mean that you are bowing your respect to Kamdeva. So, will this work for your or not?

Will this work for you or not? will work or not? ... or not?

Honestly I don't know but, I believe that Mantra chanting is a kind of meditation and this surely will help you in some way. 

Either it will make you calmer or may be more attractive in some manner because that is what meditation does.

That is all I wanted to share for now, if you have any experience in this matter please, share it with me.

I would love to listen!

Thanks a lot!

Update: 04th May 2016

I get few people asking me question related to this Mantra. Please forgive me, because I am not any kind of expert in this field. If you read my post clearly, I myself have asked this question from the readers, if this has worked for them. As none of you has replied about the working of this Mantra yet, I myself have not even tried this out. I didn't know that this post will get popular in my blog. I had wrote it just out of curiosity, but it surprises me that lot of people believe are interested in it. Anyway, my question is still open, so if you want to share your experience, please let me know through comment box or through email.

7 Reasons - When to Switch to the Next Girl.

Hi,

The following thoughts are personal, it's not necessary that anyone agrees to them. You are most welcome to give your own thoughts on this topic through the comment box below.

Before I come to the main topic, I have something else in my mind. Recently, it was Valentine's day and I read an update on the Facebook page of Akshay Kumar(Bollywood Actor) in which, he declared that he and his wife are not going to spend money on buying gifts for each other. 

It makes a lot of sense, why to spend money on Valentine's day? Valentine's day is not a gift buying day, or it is not a shopping day. It is not bad to buy the gifts for each other, but for some people the sense of Valentine's day is like that of a "shopping day."

Do you think that shopping and buying gifts on Valentine's day makes a difference in your love life? please, let me know in the comment box.  Anyway, that was just a random thought wandering in my mind, now let me come to the main topic of the post. 

This was just a part of this post, my main focus of this post is to discuss some points, which I think are important to consider if you ever are in a position of dismissing a girl.  Your love life means a lot, so it must be harmonious one. 

1. Does she love only your money? Well, in today's world, women work themselves and earn for them or their family, so please don't get confused about my views of women in general. I know there are plenty of women who love to be independent, and I respect them. I want you to be aware of the of the women who are money thirsty.It doesn't matter whether they earn for themselves or not, the money thirst is a problem. 

No matter how much they have or earn, some people want your money. It applies to both men and women. Erect your analytical antenna when the first question she asks is "What are you going to buy for me today?." Does this today comes more often than normal? 

2. She is around you only when she feels Jealous.

When she calls or tries to connect to you only when some other girl seems to be closer to you. This shows that she is jealous with other girls, and it may not be her love for you. See if she rubs against you with same intensity as she does when other girls are around, if not, you may be with wrong one. 

If you have to stay with such a girl, you have to carry one with you for whole of your life to make her jealous and so as to keep her with you. She will give you miss calls even at 12:00 AM just to check if you are talking to someone else. 

3. When you are just a piece of Meat.

Trust me there are some girls which are there with you only for sex, and you will get bored of them very soon. They are like the cylinder with holes on both ends, no matter how much you fill them, they are always empty. 

Either you break up with them, or they break up with you, it doesn't matter to them, they are just for sex, when you get a little distant from them, which can happen due to your work, or travel, they will search for another one. If you are good at sex, they will try to come back to you when you are around. See if you want the same.

4. Low Self Esteem. 

Even when you have not said those three words or neither you have kissed each other, but she becomes a radio station through which she will keep telling the story of how you proposed her and may be many other things. These girls are again having low self esteem and will not stay with you for longer if you propose them, they have their own issues to handle.

5. A Good Friend

When you propose her and she just wants to be a friend with you, trust me this girl is not the one for you. If she continues to talk to you even after the proposal, then she is going to be a good friend for you. It is not that she can't be your girl friend, but there is no sexual attraction or that spark, so none of you both can enjoy such relation.

6. She Wants your Attention but in wrong way.

If she starts flirting with your friends, she actually wants your attention but instead of getting that through some talent or common interest she takes the wrong way. Don't go for her until she finds some nice ways.

7. Lack of Trust.

When she listens shit about you from someone else and instead of talking to you about it, she starts behaving in a strange manner. I think the relation between you two must depend only on two of you. World population is very large and who knows who will say what about you to her.

Thanks!